How do I I put myself first instead of last?

Start with yourself daily. You can not pour in to others cups until you fill yours.

Is there anything that you enjoy that also feels productive? For example, I enjoy gardening a lot and it feels like a good use of my time. It's self care for me.

I’m definitely in the same boat as you, I give everything to everyone else and by the end of the day, nothing is left for me.

It seems a common trait for us that we give so much of ourselves to everyone around us there’s nothing left in the tank for thinking about ourselves. I have to set 7 alarms to remind me what I’ve got to get done every morning and to help my ADHD 9 year old to get ready for school. I shower when I remember, manage to brush my teeth most days but only once, I’ve never managed twice a day. I feel ya