Its a control issue like controling to much part of adhd?

I am not a mom by I would be the same

I mean that i for example want to know what the dad of my kids do with them, or that i really dont want them to wach television the one day they are with him. Or that when we have a trip or a birthday im organizing it and want to be ask if somebody bring his own ideas, stuff like this

Perfectionism can be

Uhh could you elaborate? Not sure what you mean by this