i cant clean

I need help. I need DRASTIC help. I have had a depression home for way over two years now. It’s not like a hoarder home, because i do pick up random stuff sometimes, and sometimes I’ll grab a trash bag and pick up random pieces of trash around my place. but thats it. My home has clothes ALL over the place, hobby stuff laying on the floor and tables, all my tables are actually full so I cant put anything on it except if i pile stuff on it. i cant hire a professional cleaner because due to my mental health i cant work so I have basically no money. I dont know what to do. Theres visual noise everywhere, i cant stop freaking out and crying when I get out of bed. sometime i just wont because i dont wanna face the mess. Please. Anyone, help me. I need tips, words of encouragement, motivation, ANYTHING, i have no irl friends, and all my online friends have drifted away, and i am estranged from my family, so I seriously am alone in this. It’s basically just been me and my own mind and self for a really long time— and it’s really starting to get to me. please please, help me

lllaylaaa

6mo

Tbh if you can afford it get someone to help you or do it for you. If not find a family member or someone. If not set a goal to do one thing a day with a reward. But also you need someone to talk to better health has a therapist you can text,video call,or just talk to on the phone. Vent hunny! Think of easy ways that will make your life easier. I've just now got to where I set a day to do things each day and make times to take my kids for a walk outside .if it's raining we do a dance party. If the want to go play outside I make them clean their rooms first. Simplify things for yourself. But don't overthink it. I'm a huge overthinker and would overload too much on myself and my laundry and dishes would be sky high. I got a white board calender and wrote down things that needed to happen on that day then I got this app and started doing stuff on one day each day of the week. It's really easy for me to lay around and just play on my phone. Not because I'm lazy but if I get up and look at everything I get overwhelmed so I started organizing things that needed to organized. It's not all done but it'll get done and I'm finally okay with that 🥰

isthisme

6mo

Zelda007

6mo

For one you need to breathe! Find someone and ask for help It is not the easiest thing to do but do it. Next thing is get a hold of a doctor a therapist and get help. Make small goals You don't have to clean the entire house in one day. Like on here make your goals Today I'm going to do the dishes and the trash If that's all you get done then you've accomplished your goals and it makes you feel better about yourself even though the rest your house may look like mine a chaotic fun house so be it If people don't like the way your house looks help me clean it or shut your mouth. It's okay it's not the end of the world have a dirty house, it is the end of the world to stress yourself out so bad about it. Ask a friend to just come over and sit and talk to you while you clean sometimes I find that easier You know when someone's around I feel like in a better mood and more energetic and I get up and I start moving around and clean just say come over and hang out with me while I clean You don't have to do anything Just come over and you know talk to you a little while I do it. Start your day with music or reading or whatever it is it calms you down and meditation yoga buy a punching bag that's what I did but you got to let that shit out or delete you up!

ChrisM

6mo

I’m pretty much in the same situation.

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