Yes. I've used other people as the barometer for normal, happy, confident. Since I did not feel anything close to those things, other people must, therefore, be them.
After living undiagnosed for 9/10 of my life and being diagnosed for just 2 1/2 years, I would much rather be me, as I slowly expose her to the air and feel vulnerable, than try to be her/him/them and lose myself. I'm learning as I go and have started calling this gradual uncovering of me The Fascinated Anthropologist
It creates a different vibe for me, and when I've thought about it, it's the most authentic term for what I'm doing.
You are enough, and you are good. Your shit might want to be an asteroid field instead of a habitable planet, and both are valid in nature. It's not always comfy, but not everything is. Hello, some of the stilettos and jeans I wore in college?! Jeezus