I hate small talk too. I ask questions to get to know people instead. People love to talk about themselves. I also tell people i ES g to be friends with about my differences in relating. You might be surprised by support from them.
It gets me nervous , most of the time I don’t know what to say and when I do … I stumble
Dont worry! Small talk is a skill that you can build up. The first interaction of 'small talk' that ppl seem to do is when meeting each other is " Hi/hello/Good Morning or evening, how are you doing?". You can use your current talking location as a guide to small talk. Ie.. Home: "Did you eat yet? Did you get good sleep?" Work: " Has it been a good shift/day for you so far? Have things been smooth? Any troubles?". Things like that. I struggled with this as well and have found a good way to do it so far. I hope this helps
How do you usually fee when doing small talk?